No Words

Okay, maybe a couple words.

Like holy fucking shit. 

I'm disgusted. I'm sad. I'm torn.  And I'm really just kinda pissed off. 

My former father in law passed away on Christmas day.

Today I saw his obituary. It was posted yesterday.

There is one black and white photo.  The obit reads as follows:

[former father in law] died XXX, 2018 in Phoenix, Ariz. at Hospice of the Valley.

Mr. XXX was born in XXX in 19XX.

Mr. XXX worked for theXXX until his retirement in XXX. He served in the XXX during the Vietnam War.

He was a member of the XXX Church and XXX Club for many years.

Mr. XXX was preceded in death by his parents, [names] sister [name] and her husband [name] and brother [name].

Survivors include [my former mother in law, two sons, three step sons, all grandchildren.

That's it. That's the whole obit. I've seen longer descriptions on menus. 

This man may have been a gross human being, an overall pain in the ass, borderline dementia, he tried to convince my oldest daughter to give him a blow job, he may have fondled her in her sleep once, and he was generally not a pleasant, nor good person. He and my former mother-in-law were perfect for each other. 

But.

He was still a fucking human being. And he didn't deserve to die alone in hospice while his wife gleefully spent his money and moved her new boyfriend into the marital home while waiting to out live him because Arizona is a community property state.

No funeral.  No memorial.  No donations.  Nothing. 

I'm going to go cry for him now.  Because I'm not sure anyone else in our family will. 

I'm so glad I'm no longer a part of that horrible, selfish, hate filled family. Fuck how they continue to piss me right off.  

PS:  Last weekend, my Ex and his new fiancee' and her son drove down to Arizona, picked up former mother in law, the new boyfriend, and drove to California. Because yesterday they all left for a cruise to Mexico.

The same day the obit ran.